Tuesday, November 18, 2008

.:aRe yOu a miDdLe cHiLd??:.

ini adalah adik beradik aku, abang sopi, aku yang comel, ajim dan ayip

have u ever heard bout a second child syndrome or a middle child syndrome??

ish..kalo google sure manyak info korang leh dapat kan..wat per aku nak membebel kat sini..

well once aku macam pernah rase tis syndrome nyer symptoms..
aku dengan abang aku memang sangatlah dekat jer jarak umo nyer setahun jer..
pas tu antara aku ngan adik aku ajim, jarak umo lapan tahun ooo..
juh kan..juh kan..
so masa aku dapat adik yang ajim nih memang rase down giler2..even sebelum dapat adik pun dah rasa bit down..

as for sure..parents normally will focus on their first child..all the attention will be given to the first child..the first child need to be so called mr/ms perfect..both my parents are oso first childers (hummm~~~)..
so biler dapat second child dalam mase yang dekat..the parents seem still can't let go their attention from the first child..soooo the second child being left to be independent..the situation getting worst when the next child born to the world..
might be the last child..so for sure all the attention being divert to the last child..so there's go the second child being all alone by him/her self again..pitty them rite..
aku sebagai second child..macam pernah rase this situation..however as the only daughter, i'm not so seeking for the attention coz i always get it..huhuhuhu but from what i've observe among my other family members (among my cousie) there's might be a slight symptoms of tis syndrome among the second child..they seem more independent, brave at heart, out spoken and unique..the uniqueness came from the independent way of the life they going through while growing up..
well my most close cousin also the second child of my aunty, we seem to share the same feeling and tought..both of us mighty differ in age, she early 20 n i'm in the middle 20, but we're close like sister..she's even close wif me more rather than her own big sister..she always said,

anak sulung nih manje, mengade-ngade (not independent)
anak second best (sebab dier anak second)
anak third tak suke mandi..(sebab adik dier x suke mandi)
anak fourth or last combination from all the above + more mengade2

well that only our oppinion..this syndrome is realll if the parents don't know how to devide their attention between their children...

sumthing tat i qoute from another blog..
First son: three baby showers - coworkers, girlfriends, and family members
Second son: none

First son: Adorable, new, stylish, perfectly-matched outfits, lovingly washed in fragrance-free detergent, folded neatly and placed in paper-lined dresser drawers
Second son: Hand-me-downs and consignment store finds, typically pulled from the laundry basket full of clothes which have been ready to fold for two days

First son: sanitizing wipes on the grocery cart topped by adorable padded shopping cart cover
Second son: throw the receipts and stray lettuce leaves out of the cart and plop him into the front

First son: Baby book kept current and complete as time passed
Second son: I need to buy a baby book, I suppose

First son: Four different studio portraits taken in his first year
Second son: I may find time for the second trip to the photo studio before his first birthday…and I should really get a frame for that one we got done at Christmas so we can put a picture of him on the wall

First son: constant awareness of his actions and activities around the house
Second son: where did that bruise come from?

First son: Daddy-made personal homepage, complete with current photos and milestones
Second son: a dozen or so snapshots in my free Photobucket account… from three months ago

First son: diaper changes every two hours like clockwork
Second son: what do you mean you didn’t change him? You thought I did? I was loading the car, YOU were supposed to change him!

First son: the smallest smear of food or spitup warrants a new outfit
Second son: hey, these green beans from dinner make a nice contrast next to the banana from breakfast on those overalls

First son: strict, conservative calendar awareness so no potentially allergenic solid foods are introduced too early
Second son: Wait, can they have citrus at one year or 9 months? Oops.

First son: 1st birthday party features cute theme in primary colors, complete with matching decorations, plates, party favors, hats, separate tiny cake for baby, elaborate menu planned for weeks, and invitations to all neighbors, friends, and extended family on both sides
Second son: You can’t be serious… it is THIS week? 1 year old? I wonder if your mom would make a cake. She’s out of town? Damn. I guess I’ll call my parents and tell them to come over. We still have paper plates left over from the 4th of July, don’t we?

First son: OMG, he has a runny nose! Call the doctor!
Second son: Eh, he’s probably teething.

First son: Playgroups, swim lessons, music class, etc.
Second son: Go play with your brother

a qouted qoute from another blog

i'm a second child (male) out of 4. my elder brother is turning 20, i'm turning 18, little brother turning 14 and little sister turning 9.
i never knew second child syndrome until recently and realized that i had the symptoms of middle child syndromes. i used to be a loner, have always been distant with my parents and most significantly hated all my siblings.

i thought that i should inform you that although a child is suffering from middle child syndrome, do not worry because they would grow up to become unique, independent and diplomatic than other siblings.

another issue that you should know is the common belief of middle children being under achievers is rarely true. it happen to perform better than my brothers by a mile!

if you have been informed about middle child syndrome being present in your child, i suggest that parents keep an open mind and stop the belief that you are doing your best with all your children (my parents). this aspect is important as middle children do not tend to express their need for attention and may cause them to resort to physical aggression with siblings...

note: anak second aku sure dapat attention lebih..huhuhu aku x nak dier der symptom syndrome nih..sume anak pun kene bagi equal attention..insyaallah...


  1. wow, that give me a strike straight back to me. haha being the eldest and actually realize my bro is having the same syndrome do make me feel guilty. tp, ako rase dier lagy terok kot. huhu

  2. hurm..second child syndrome nih memang alwayz happen..macam susah nk elak pun yer gak..sebab dulu mase aku berdua jer dgn abg aku (lum dapat adik) dh der symptom2 syndrome nih..sedih kn..

  3. aku x prasan plak ade ke x.. sbb adik badik aku sume lps drjh 6 je kena halau dr umah.. kena dok asrama.. so sume kena layan same rate je.. uhuhuhu